Does Life Get Easier When Your Kids become Teenagers?

by Freida Suniula

Recently I was asked if I thought life got easier now that the kids were teenagers.  I wouldn't say easier, I would say things just change. I found when my son turned 14 years old I would spend more time in my room as puzzled as he was about life. I was more puzzled about what I was doing wrong because he took a turn of silence towards myself and his father. We didn't do anything different. I didn't realize that this was the problem. 

I was thinking about reading a few books and researching on the internet about this new son I had over night, but I constantly found myself in my room lying on the bed thinking about when I was that age. Obviously, things were different back then. We had genuine reasons for changing, so we thought. But this silence from my 14 year old was overnight. So I thought about how I wanted to be treated. I stepped back from doing everything for him, had a heart to heart, while he just sat there looking at the floor, assuring him that we are there for him when ever he needed, then left him alone. He eventually came out of the room and spoke. 

I reassured him that we have his back no matter what, but I let him have the freedom that he needed. I understand every child is different, but realize how important it is to let your teenager grow up by feeling independent. It really was hard letting the apron strings loose, but it had to be done. I trust him, just not everyone else that has an influence on his life, outside of mummy's walls.  

And Guess what? my daughters next....sigh....

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About Freida

My God Given talents direct me towards helping others and my passion is to help women get to know who they really are inside. It is important for us as women and mums to know that there are people that can help us and want to help us in our daily lives and with our problems that we tend to bottle up. 

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